Q: My husband is friends with all of his old girlfriends on Facebook and he chats with them all of the time on there. Whenever I come near him and he’s on there, he quickly closes the browser. Should I be concerned?
A: Hello kettle, this is pot calling. Most everyone I know has at least one ex-girlfriend or boyfriend that they are friends with on Facebook.
Here is the thing about Facebook. It is fun and intriguing and feels somehow safe.
Your husband is probably quickly closing the browser because he thinks you will be upset if you see him chatting with these women.
For all you know, they are chatting about parenthood or a mutual friend or the weather.
Of course, there is also the possibility that they are chatting about the great sex they used to have or they could be taking a stroll down memory lane.
Have you spoken to him about this? Being open and honest is one of the most important keys to a happy marriage. Don’t be mad and not give him a chance to explain.
I think it all boils down to do you trust your husband? If the answer is yes, then chatting on Facebook should not worry you.
I, for one, think it’s reasonable to be friends on Facebook with an ex. However… if you feel like his behavior has changed then I would be concerned. For example, if all of a sudden he has to work late every night, starts showering the moment he walks in the door and smells like Channel perfume, then you should worry.
Be careful how you broach the subject. Most people do not like to be told who they can and cannot chat with. Just because he dated these women, does not mean that he has any current or future interest in them.
Unless you have reason to not trust him, give him the benefit of the doubt. He married you and he loves you. Show him you love him by trusting him.
If you don’t trust him, then it’s time for a big talk. And it has nothing to do with Facebook.
Do you have some sort of dilemma or confusion when it comes to sex? Ask me your sex question and I’ll answer it here.
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I think you are right since I caught my husband chatting with someone since before he forgot to close his facebook account then I didnt argue bue we were able to talk about it. Then we finalized that I should have access to his account and he agree.
Am i the first guy who will comment on this site? Just want to know.
It got my attention to where I know this article is focusing on guys cheating using facebook. I just want to add that this also happen vice versa, girls is also guilty on doing so. Great post and hope to hear your answer with my first question.
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